Yes! We do understand your concern about your search for positive parenting techniques. We know that it does gets challenging when it comes to parenting your toddler or even a teenage. Also, all parents desire that their children become the best version of themselves. Some of the common goals that parents usually have are:
- Quality relationship with the parent
- Taking responsibility for actions
- Being respectful towards others
- Differentiating right from wrong
- Wise decision making
- To be honest, loyal and trustworthy
This article deals with a quick few technique to make your child a better and a positive person. Also, lets discuss a bit about how to deal with challenges like bedtime issues, tantrums, behavioral problems, picky eating etc. And how to direct their growth in a positive direction from getting started with school, being respectful, making and retaining friends, taking responsibility, making good choices, etc.
First things first, Children learn what they see
At times, we forget the way we behave in front of our children. Make sure you behave/act responsibly in front of them. Be aware of those tiny eyes and ears that are seeing and listening to you 24*7
The word in itself holds a negative/punitive connotation. It basically means “training to correct or molds”. The tricks generally used is Physical punishment. However, this is ineffective to bring change in the long-run. So here are few quite effective solutions to get your child in proper discipline:
- Treat child in the same way you would like to be treated by him/her
- Use alternatives: if they like to watch TV, make them watch good stuff or even you can make them play games/ video games
- Connect before correcting: Make sure the child feels loved
- Positive reinforcement: Praise, appraises, affection for small-small stuffs; this accounts as a big deal for them
- Set a timer for things: like you may say “You need 15-20 minutes to do that task”. This will help to make the child know what is expected
- Stick to reward when they do a task and vice versa. Don’t reward them when they don’t complete a task. Like “Clean you bag if you want to go to play”. Allow them only if they do
- Listen to them. Address their feelings. Tell them things like “I understand you are sad and so on”
Positive parenting for preschoolers
We know that this phase is damn too challenging. The child will be learning too many things and their curiosity will surprise you every time. We understand how frustrating it can be some times. But be mindful enough that this is the actual phase of development where the child learns most of the things. Let’s discuss one of such problem commonly faced by parents:
Shopping experience with them: If the child is quite cranky and behaves badly (speaking loudly, running here and there unnecessarily, throwing stuff, demanding unnecessary items).
Generally, in such cases we offer them rewards like sweets and candy if they behave properly. However, this should not be the case. Every time you keep offering him/her the same candy, he/she won’t feel rewarded anymore. Also, they will get the learning that “they have to behave good only when they need a candy”
Solutions to this problem: Hug them and quietly ask them to behave properly so that no one else gets to know, or Silently go and sit in the car, or go home cancel the shopping that day and not like after reaching home they are allowed to play and do their normal stuff. Rather make them realize their mistake by telling them that “You won’t be served your favorite dish in dinner”.
Also, before going to such places don’t say it simply that “behave properly”. Rather make your expectations very clear. Like you can say that “I want you to be quiet in public places”, “I want to you help me with picking up stuff”, “I want you sit properly in the cart”. Also, when they do so, reward them by appreciating them like “You helped me a lot with the shopping”, “You saved my time a lot” etc.
In a nutshell, by being caring, compassionate, strong, consistent and involved, positive parents encourage healthy development and inner spirit of a child.
In our next article we will discuss about more such positive parenting techniques that could be followed with your teenagers. Meanwhile, do share your queries and comments if you have any.