When it comes to parenting tips with children it can take a toll on your entire life! Your little toddler is growing each day and the time has come when you need to understand the balance between becoming a ‘moral policing’ mother and letting your child evolve with their individuality.
Here are 9 parenting tips with children for effective and efficient parenting:
BE AS YOU WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO BE
The primary and most imperative requirement for good parenting is a good you. In the formative years of a child’s life they look up to you – your manners, opinions, gait, body language, expressions. They seem to immaculate it speedily! So, if you want your children to grow up socially, morally, physically, emotionally promising spruce up your way of being!
BOOST YOUR CHILD’S SELF – ESTEEM
A strong and balanced self-esteem is a prerequisite for an appealing personality. Let your child be themselves. DON’T try to fit them in accepted notions of societal conduct (unless and until they become non adhering and extremely stubborn). DON’T belittle or criticize them. Make them learn to embrace themselves and work towards a better them. Praise them often and celebrate their smallest achievements to boost them for bigger ones! DON’T always choose for them rather facilitate the decision making process.
DON’T FIGHT NEAR THEM
NEVER EVER stress your child with quarrels that prevail between you and your husband. ALWAYS discuss them privately. In the early years of a child’s life, they won’t be able to endure distance/quarrels between his two most intimate or emotionally connected beings.
DON’T SHOUT/HIT THEM UNNECESSARILY
Shouting on your children every time they make a mistake isn’t the way to prevent further mistakes. Unnecessary shouting can make them unresponsive and disillusioned. The tendency to self-harm or estrangement can also increase. They can also feel extremely fearful and burst out rivers if somebody except from you shouts at them in school or somewhere outside. Hitting them continuously can further increase alienation and can perpetuate thoughts of suicide or running away from home. Talk to them and explain them calmly! Screaming or hitting is not the only solution.
DON’T FULFILL ALL THEIR DEMANDS
Demands that are acceptable, affordable and necessary should be fulfilled. Demands that are less beneficial and more arise from a need to accumulate things or spend money should not be fulfilled. However, if your child is a die-hard fan of some series make sure you buy them the entire pack. Because if they like something they will read and preserve it with greater dedication. Also, if you have said NO to something don’t buy them after they have cried excessively or refused to eat food. Children get habitual and will always resort to crying/blackmailing you to get something.
TALK TO THEM
If your child is unresponsive or chronically sad – talk to them. If they still don’t open up take an appointment with a psychologist. It is very important for children to speak their heart out. Talk to them every day – what happened at school/tuition/home when you weren’t there. Ask them if something strange happened. Just talk to them.
ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES IN FRONT OF THEM
Nobody is perfect and so are you! Acknowledging, accepting and correcting your mistakes Infront of your children is priceless for them. This will make them learn it is okay to make mistakes. The next time they make a mistake they won’t just burst into panic rather they will find ways to correct it. They might even stop hiding their smallest to the most fatal mistake they make from you. It is okay as parents to accept you made a mistake and apologise for the same.
NO GENDER ROLES
Gender roles are created by society and implemented by them. They aren’t static. Your girl child isn’t meant for the kitchen or your boy child isn’t meant for doing the outdoor chores. Both can do either. Don’t tell them what a girl/boy should do. Let them think for themselves. Let them learn everything they can.
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN GOOD TOUCH AND BAD TOUCH
Create an open and candid relationship between your child and you so they have the heart to tell you if something strange happened with them. Teach them how a good touch feels and what a bad touch is, to speak against it by informing their teacher/you/anybody in authority.
So, these are the 9 parenting tips with children for good parenting
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